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just so you know, dr. fox: you are "spot on" regarding the nature of what my own lifelong experience has been. thanks for your very helpful commentary.

What about if a father tells their 8th grader “ you’re fucking worthless” because the 8th grader missed the inside of the doors when washing and cleaning their truck? Or never taking interest in the son’s interests so the son tried everything the dad was interested and involved in when he was young because you wanted him to be happy and proud of you? Or since a young age telling you buying stuff that you like with birthday and holiday money is stupid a waste of fucking money and belittle you for it? Or never listening or protecting you when you needed it from the severe bullying for being overweight? Just constant accusations that you are a liar or telling you, from elementary age throughout the end of the severe bullying around freshman year, to stop being a pussy and deal with it, it’s life and the bullying won’t last forever. Telling you he doesn’t like you and can never forgive you for how disrespectful you were to your mother even thought it was due to not having a feeling of attachment or anything because as time went on you saw the people who were supposed to to be there for you and protect you not as parents but as just people so that respect was lost since it was clear you are a failure and won’t amount to anything but prison or dead.

Took 60 years for me😢 suddenly i saw it everything 😢 No contact now

Someone with this disorder is fucking crazy. She would try manipulate me then see it not work and would completely flip on me. I’m a mommas Bois so I’ll never touch a woman but the girl I was with would take advantage of that and would honestly hit me a lot!!!! Thank god it only lasted a month because I’ve never been with someone that’s disrespected me so crazy!!! If you meet someone with this you gotta gooo!!!!!!!!

Is the “inner critic” like the “Inner Critic” like the Punitive Critic/Parent Mode in Schema-Focused Therapy?

You need to remove your dam self

jumped on this video out of nowhere and im glad i clicked on it, such informative info, also where do you get the thumbnails made? it's amazing! 😍

If they want to talk why does pwbpd not call or text? Why waiting? Is it because of fear of rejection?

12:34. Wow! Really? I'm 32 and I feel a heck of a lot more grounded than I did in my early 20s when I was diagnosed. But recently as the BPD seems to be more or less under control if not gone, I realise I have trouble with executive functioning. I had ADHD for sure, that was diagnosed alongside BPD, but I've also come to suspect I may be on the spectrum as well. So now I'm trying to figure out how I can develop strategies to cope with the ADHD if not control it. I'm not able to start therapy specifically for ADHD yet so just looking into self help for now.... I am also somewhat convinced that I'm on the ASD spectrum, and I believe that I was born with ASD, developed ADHD (getting worse thanks to technology) and BPD is the result of complex trauma/ complex PTSD caused the the consequences of people not understanding me, gaslighting, and abandonment. I'm 32 and I've been through CBT, I'm pretty aware of my BPD brain and I think I've got good coping strategies but the ASD and ADHD I don't. But I feel as though by targeting those two, I can complete my recovery/ remission. I don't think the ASD will ever go away though.

I'm so tired and depressed. It's an effort to just write these few lines. I watch a lot of these videos, but I never remember what they are about ... So frustrating, I'll be glad when it's all over.

why do these fuckers even become mothers

The narrative is that it's mostly Men who are narcissistic. I think the reality is that it's harder to spot in women because so many of them are naturally half way there that it's accepted as "empowerment" and feminie etc. Young men are gonna find life hard when dealing with these people.be careful.

I want to encourage all you guys and girls. I don’t have this exact problem, but I also know early Trauma starting with my birth, I had the umbilical cord around my neck and wasn’t breathing. And then I had the luck, as you guys had, to have very neglectful parents. Late in my life I learned what developmental Trauma is, and that it can show up in many forms. I couldn’t believe to hear from my therapist that she believes that BPD is nothing else as a big trauma response. I wished my EX with BPD could hear this information, because she believed that she is the Problem, the diagnosis. A fatal believe. No, I now can tell from my own experience, very very old wounds such as birth trauma experience can heal. I am one year in a Body based trauma therapy. It’s hard work, in some phases I feel constantly tired, but this is a sure sign something in my subconscious moves. Everybody who tells you “it wont get better”, is a liar. I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart. Walk the walk, it won’t be easy, but it’s worth it…. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_therapy

That wasn’t confusing. I was able to picture my young life to these later years and a lot of narcissists I dealt with. Problem is that I want this information to stick. I’m sure it will but….. I have so much problems every where I go with narcissist and mainly it’s because I’m….. Tough one… it was so bad that I had to use them as friends so they stealing me from each other. Got out of that but just more experiences in trying to leave but next place are worst narcissists. Sibling and another strange one trying to get help. Roommate. I had problems all the way until I shut the door in my room. I watched a video before this and lady says she has something that can help with the inner critic if that’s the problem. I don’t have double fold inner critic like narcissists that’s for sure!!! They live by it! That’s what I see anyhow. Sorry I about my tone there, just I’m really at awe watching all this. I did learn not to feel obligated:) I’m actually in a middle of getting back to what I was doing before I got bombarded in the city I live in which is quite tight with this culture. Yeah so my entire social life and venues too- well here and there. Anyhow while I’m going through my stuff and catching back up, hope you don’t mind I hangout for awhile. My understanding of this is getting better so I’m just going to stay on it. That and I have to be reminded of how they think because I can forget and just be myself and I get a bad response from them back. My circles are nearly cleared. Probably the longest message you get… I just need to hang out for a bit- I stuck myself in my room:). I have to just figure some stuff out- things were pretty serious here and there. Great video- way better then trying to follow things that aren’t explained out. All my best regards:)

I find this very helpful. Just leaving a comment so I don’t lose the video. I just realized the time 2: AM. I’ve been giving narcissism so much thought that it’s nearly taking over my life but this actually sounds extremely helpful and something that I can follow. All my best regards.

Love that..! We can increase probability ❣️✨

The part about the radical acceptance was what I needed to hear. Thank you.

New sub. Thank you.

Thank you for such

Dr Fox, You are unbelievable, you are definitely the very best out there Thank you.

Glad me and the narcissist is over 😝

45 years old, and I definitely see myself in almost all of this. The need to please others was so strong for me that it eventually morphed into a desire to stay away from any relationship deeper than "friendly acquaintance." I'm one of those people who is friendly to everyone and friends with no one. Once Mom passed, I had no desire to ever take care of anyone but myself again.

OK, i cried my eyes out... where's the solution ?

i had heightened narcissistic traits for a large portion of my life and in retrospect i was that way to protect my ego above all, it also blinded me. i'm glad i got help.

Female Narcissist, is redundant!

Too bad!???

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Im 61 years old and called in sick at work today. I felt guilty although i know i need to take care of myself. Thanks mom for gaslighting me when i was a child and making me deny what i knew to be the truth. Thanks dad for leaving us.

What he does not mention is that 2 years of treatment can cost tens of thousands. The good doctor chooses not to mention this ;-)

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So true don't comment when she talking

Is hating yourself a symptom of BPD? Because I told my ex-husband for years that I hated myself he decided that yeah he looked it up and yeah I do have BPD but I didn't need to be diagnosed

Makes so much sense dr Dan thank you ❤

I have both and I've been diagnosed 3 days ago. Honestly the diagnosis made everything so much brighter to me. I have had problems in school, but I was always able to manage them and help everything on a decent level, which made me literally proud when I got diagnosed, since I didn't hit the exact behavioral criteria for bpd, less for adhd, because of my hard work that I put into being a healthy person towards myself and others. I struggle a lot with inattentiveness, have struggled with addictions, but I've been able to manage them (I don't take anything anymore) and gosh my whole life, every romantic relationship has been a disaster in the end. I'm currently managing even that!!! I feel like I've really worked hard all my life against this diagnosis, not even knowing it was there and always thought about myself in terms of being different, but right now I am aware of just how much effort I've put to it...

If you consider what he said, that "narcissistic mothers" is a controversial topic, whereas there is zero controversy over talking about narcissistic fathers, you'll start to get a glimpse of just how much power narcissists mothers wield behind their smoke screen of victimhood, virtue and entitlement. The basic idea of a toxic mother, for whatever reason, is taboo.

I have been able to manage my splitting and symptoms enough to get a job as a government relations specialist. Appearing normal can be difficult for sure. When I feel stressed, I shut down and don't do my job, then as the pressure builds I think about quitting. THAT must be what you're talking about. Catching it first step would be keeping myself focused enough on the goal to make sure I"m keeping up with the work, instead of sabotaging by being unprepared?

Thank you for this message. I've recently had a crisis in my beliefs of improving my bpd. You have made me feel that I Can beat this terrible condition and the screaming in my head will eventually leave. Thank you for giving me hope.

The worst thing that happend to me and the best thing that happend was when i was told i was using the partner, thats where my heart just twisted and broke inside after so much positives we gave to eachother and supporting with multiple issues. It just released me and made me loose all interests and fear the person. I still feel sorry for the person but it was very unstable good sides to the relationship so bpd isnt just bad but theres alot of work

I'd rather be dead than live with BPD for another momment.

My emotions change on how people treat me almost instantly like all or nothing.... it can change and change back how I feel towards them based on how they r treating me. But that's normal right. ? Like I can love someone but if I feel attacked or if they just nag or yell at me I can also act like they don't exist. Soooooo where does that fall

omg thank you very much

I have suspected for a while that quiet bpd is what I suffer from and have been trying to get help and be diagnosed for it. Unfortunately the doctors and psychiatrists keep telling me that the quiet type doesn't exist and that I'm actually just depressed. I live in Denmark and they tell me they have a different system in Europe than in the US, and hence there doesn't seem to be any understanding of how I relate to bpd and what to do about it. I wish I knew what to do, I'm so frustrated and can't really see a way forward.

I have bpd I sure the hell don’t believe that 80% of symptoms see remission! In what world does that happen? That claim pisses me off! So untrue!

I was only able to begin "thinking" about myself in a healthier way, when I took stimulants for ADHD, having a BPD diagnosis. I then realized that my feelings were dictating my outlook about myself and also the bullying that I had gone through, became internalized. That was the only time I was able to see myself in a healthier way and I think that because people with BPD have difficulty with cognitions because they become overtaken by negative emotions, it becomes difficult to access that part of their brain. When I had to lower my simulant use because of negative side effects, the emotions came back, and I am stuck in my emotions again, and it's harder for me to access the thinking part of my brain, so naturally, I am feeling down about myself again, but what you are saying is true, the only issue is it is more than just will power, it's actually physiological so now I am not sure how to continue my progress and which medication to take, since access to a psychiatrist is almost impossible here unless you are suicidal and unsure which other medications would be helpful to continue my recovery journey.

oak tree you're in my way..

Most wmn are narcissists...because society encourages/allows them to be.

I think suicide ideation can be used as a maladaptive coping strategy for people with BPD. I think for some individuals, turning to thoughts of suicide can give them a sense of escape and relief from their psychological pain. Obviously it's not healthy but I think it's not uncommon for people who struggle to emotionally regulate to use these thoughts as a coping strategy. Unfortunately I think at this stage things are probably quite severe and the individual is feeling quite defeated

I am autistic with DID, they find me with ease and I do not see the flags. You know where psychopaths hide? Christian churches, organizations, ministries. Holy crap those people destroyed me.

Wow, this just blew my mind. Thank you.

You are not BPD! I love how you separate the traits from our actual core identity. We contend with BPD but it's not who I actually am.